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How can we increase children’s confidence? That’s going to be the theme of a group of blogs because of feedback we received on our recent survey. If you’re one of the ones who responded, thank you! We want to meet your needs so we’re glad for your input.

There are many things we can do to grow kids’ confidence so they’ll be obedient, follow through without being reminded, treat siblings kindly, and complete homework. Yes, confidence is related to all these issues and more.

My first suggestion may surprise you. We need to spend quality time with our kids for no reason and just for fun. These times that may feel unimportant are very important.

During these relaxed times when we’re sitting around, running errands together, or playing Wii, our kids will more likely talk with us than when we try to set up times for conversation. They may share their hurts and confusions so we can comfort them. And, we may tend to share more with them about our day. This helps us know each other better.

We need to make time for relaxed times. Yes, we’re busy and there’s always something to do. That should include doing nothing. Or, close to nothing. It’s in spending time with our kids that they feel what they need to feel in order to be confident.

When I reflect on what feelings I want children to have when they’re with me, I think about how children felt when they were with Jesus. He ought to be our Role Model.

When He walked on earth, children were the forgotten generation. Yet, with Jesus, they felt anything but that. For example, below is a list of feelings a group of teachers listed when I asked them how they believe children felt when with Him. (Read Matthew 18:1-6,10; Matthew 21:15-16; Mark 10:13-16 if you’d like.)

Check out this list they generated. Do you agree? Can you imagine what children believed about themselves when feeling these ways? Can you see confidence birthed here?

Take some time to reflect upon how your children feel when with you. Any changes you need to make? Before we talk about strategies to implement and things to do, maybe confidence starts by doing very little, but transferring much from heart to heart.

  • Accepted
  • Loved
  • Safe
  • Secure
  • Comforted
  • Valuable
  • Special
  • Important
  • Respected
  • Excited
  • Beautiful
  • Worthy
  • Happy
  • Cared for
  • Joyful
  • Precious
  • Listened to
  • Curious
  • Uninhibited
  • Blessed
  • Treasured
  • Significant
  • Enjoyed
  • Encouraged
  • Comfortable being themselves

Again, I ask, do you see confidence birthed here?