Someone I know posted this on Facebook:
This summer one of my goals is to take time to TEACH my kids things they have in their hearts to learn! Often times during the school year we don’t have a lot of extra time to do those things–I had them give me some ideas of things they would like to learn–so one of the things Lily wants to learn more about is sewing! So today we made a tote bag!
There’s so much I like about what Sarah posted.
- She has goals for the summer. If we don’t, before we know it, these precious weeks will be over and we may have major regrets as nothing was accomplished. I’m not suggesting we fill every waking moment with something to do. A friend posted today that she and her husband have decided to have a laidback summer because of major stress they’ve experienced. That’s a legitimate goal.
- Sarah has “TEACH” in all capital letters. She is a mom who sees herself as a parent who teaches. This is so wise. Kids can’t just be told what to do, especially if they’ve never done it before. This is disrespectful, but I think a lot of us do it all the time. Then we complain when something is not done right or well enough. No wonder too many kids don’t feel safe with their own parents. Sarah’s children are blessed to have a mom who wants to teach.
- Sarah isn’t teaching what she wants her children to know. Of course, sometimes that’s totally appropriate. It’s part of parenting. But, to use some summer time to teach children what they want to learn is so great. I respect that Sarah is aware of her kids’ hearts. Connecting heart-to-heart is magic. It’s what helps children feel known and secure. Then they’ll be willing to try new things. And, notice Sarah taught Lily how to make a tote bag. Straight lines. Not a piece of clothing that had to fit exactly right. What a wise decision.
- Asking her children to list several things that interest them, and not just one, is also smart. This acknowledges they’re multifaceted and multi-interested. Sarah can look at their interests, see if siblings might have listed similar things, consider other summer responsibilities and schedules, and decide on a sensible order for teaching her children.
- I love the two exclamation marks at the end of Sarah’s post. She is happy her daughter wants to sew. Thrilled, maybe. Why? Sarah is very creative (as is her husband) and actually has a business through which she sells her creations so Lily has no doubt watched her mom create things at her sewing machine. Sharing a personal interest with children is special. They don’t just learn skills by being with us. They learn more about us. They learn what we’re passionate about and why. Sharing experiences is a great way to pass on our values. Having more in common with our kids than simply being related facilitates healthy bonding, mutual respect, and joy. Just look at Lily’s face.
Lily learned more than how to make a tote bag. The same will be true for your children if you teach them this summer.
Sarah’s short post inspired me and I hope it inspires you. It’s such a great example of how positive social media sites like Facebook can be.