[guestpost]Randy Thomas is blogging for me today. I’m sure he’ll inspire us and give us much to think about. I’m grateful for his friendship and role on staff as the Celebrate Kids’ Online & Social Media content manager.[/guestpost]
Dr. Kathy and Jill Savage, in their new book No More Perfect Kids, end chapter three with this:
Max Lucado says, “study your kids while you can. The greatest gift you can give your children is not your riches, but revealing to them their own.” I’d continue that thought by establishing that we must work to be able to celebrate their own riches. See what’s good about them more than the places they need to grow. Grieve your dreams, and get to know your child’s dreams. When we’re able to do that, we can celebrate who they really are!
I am an abstract artist so hang on … I am about to get all abstracty artist on you. I shared on Facebook last night an update on my latest painting (pictured above) even though it is far from finished:
“Sometimes I totally feel like a third person after the fact narrator in this endeavor! … I know this is coming “out” of my mind, spirit, hands, but it somehow has a life of its own. It’s mind-blowing, in a good way, that this painting (all my work really) never turns out the way I thought it would go OR it just completely morphs and adapts as I go along. …”
It’s true. Every time I go to create something there is the initial dream that gets supplanted almost immediately. The painting featured above? The initial image in my head looked absolutely nothing like what you see in the picture. It was even supposed to be in a completely different color combination! Plus, I am not even finished. What will happen next!?
Even though I have learned to relax and enjoy my particular creative process (going with the flow, allowing one line to inspire the next) there are always several points in the process where I would like to set the whole thing on fire and start over.
Not kidding. Fire. Up in flames, *POOF*… #mulligan
I get nail-biting nervous, and think, “I just ruined it… RUINED it. All that work … ruined.” But then I hear the ultimate Creator, our Heavenly Father, say, “relax, trust the creative process I put in you and press through.”
I do. I have yet to throw away a single canvas. When it is all said and done, I have fallen in love with the piece. Even the ugly ones are in my heart because I can tell you the story of how they came into being, the journey they took, and why I love them so.
At this point, you parents out there are probably figuring out where I am going to go with this. You might be thinking. That’s really … interesting… Randy but your painting didn’t just give a full-on tantrum at Walmart and throw-up cherry Italian ice in the backseat of my mini-van. That’s true and I would never say that producing one of my paintings is like raising a child.
That said, can you see some of the artistic echoes of God’s heart toward your child?
Think about it, your child came from your desire and love. He or she was born into your family as an extension of the very essence of you and your spouse. Your dreams and expectations have been, or are in the process, of meeting reality. Your “ideal” masterpiece, object of beauty, is looking a bit awkward or not at all like what you imagined. Your heart may be sinking as this amazing miracle starts taking on a life of his or her own. It may be a scary place to not see where one line will lead toward the next one.
Yet, our Heavenly Father loves your child even more perfectly than you do and perhaps He is saying, “relax, trust the creative process I put within you, and your child. Press through …”
God has placed a masterpiece in your life. Your child is the finest art in the universe because he or she is the living Image of God. Out of all the billions of people on this planet, Jesus entrusted you with the opportunity to serve as parents to this wonderful child. Watch in awe as the beauty he/she possesses manifests under your careful eye and loving guidance.
No More Perfect Kids is a book that is as valuable to parents as a paint brush is to an artist. Sure, you can fling the paint on the canvas but a good brush is an incredible tool. This book will equip you to enjoy the revealing of a masterpiece God has entrusted to your care. Click here to learn more and to order No More Perfect Kids.