The Newtown Connecticut shooting is a tragedy. Absolutely. As of this writing, I believe 18 children and 8 adults were killed.

We can’t control what happens to our children. You’ve known that. Today’s trauma just drives that home.

Many times trying to control our children backfires. Too many demands and they rebel. Too many boundaries and they won’t know how to be free. They may not know they can be free. They may have no confidence.

They’ll actually be more insecure. It’s the very opposite of what you want for them.

We can control how we behave toward our children. And, other children, too.

Know them. Respect them. Interact with them. Comfort them. Like them. Love them. Honor them. Affirm them. Spend time with them. Embrace them. Listen. Talk. Do things with them. Help them learn, study, and practice. Hug them. Help them. Cherish them. Welcome them. Celebrate them.

These choices and actions help children feel secure and be secure when with you. This is what you do want. They’ll turn to you when concerned and scared. They’ll seek your wisdom when not sure of what to do. They’ll trust you to do your best.

That’s something you can do. And, should do. Now.

Now.

Now.

Don’t wait.

Do it now.

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