Every Monday, I’ll post about discovering genuine hope and authentic answers for living a healthy life.

Quick. Name as many impatient people as you can think of. Ready! Go! ……

Okay. Stop.

Could you have kept going forever and ever? Was your name on the list? It’s much easier to name impatient people than it is to name patient ones.

Yellow light runners.

Complainers in the slow line at the cash register.

Complainers in any line.

Whiners who don’t want to wait their turn.

People telling their computer to “hurry up” as if it will help.

Children not wanting to answer parents’ questions about their day because there’s something else to do.

Judging someone’s prayer request as taking too much time.


The ease and speed of our digital technology has made much of life easier than it used to be. We want everything to be easy, automatic, quick, instant, now. We might not even be consciously aware of this. Our own impatience might surprise us. Disappoint us.

What does patience have to do with the theme of Monday’s blog: security, identity, belonging, purpose, and competence?

Would it surprise you to learn that patience is related to joy? And, if you’ve been reading this blog, you’ve learned that joyfulness births self-respect, self-control, and respect for others. These three contribute to being able to meet our needs for security, identity, belonging, purpose, and competence in healthy ways.

Would you agree that joyful people are more patient? Try it. The next time you’re tempted to react with impatience, find reasons to be joyful. And, you know from reading this blog, that joyfulness and gratefulness are connected. So, also think about what you’re grateful for.

Does your impatience lift? Your attitude change? Is your identity healthier? Your belonging? Your better character will positively affect your self-security, your competence, and people being able to place their security in you. You might better fulfill your purpose when you’re patient with yourself and others.

Changing “a little thing” like impatience can have huge dividends. Find more joy. More gratitude. Try it this week.