What if individuals were healthier? Kinder? Less judgmental? What if families were stronger? More loving? Truly connected?

What if families were healthier? A country is only as strong as its families. A church is only as strong as its families. A school is only as strong as the families who send children there.

I’m more and more convinced that we need to look at ourselves. As an example, I know people living in turmoil who would benefit from their own peace, but all they seem to be thinking about is the turmoil “over there.” There are people who are hateful and angry, but don’t seem to know it. Or they do, but excuse it and justify it. As I often say, there are reasons for beliefs, attitudes, and actions, but no excuses. None. Or, there shouldn’t be.

Let’s be willing to change beliefs and attitudes that result in actions that aren’t right. Yes, I still believe in right and wrong.

And I believe the effort to change is worth it because we’re worth it and so are others. We weren’t created to live in isolation. We were created for community. Let’s do it better. Agree?

All of us can improve. All of us can pray for others to improve.

My word-smart and logic-smart strengths kicked in yesterday as I was thinking and praying and grieving again over the confusion and chaos that exists today and the loss of innocent lives.

Let me offer you this list of possible changes to focus on. Share it with children. Maybe choose 2-3 to especially focus on now. Talk about what contributes to the current negatives you choose. Talk about why the positives are worth working toward. Brainstorm how to learn the new beliefs, attitudes, and behaviors. Talk about how to hold each other accountable for change. Then come back and revisit the list to choose the next change to work toward. What if we did this?!?

  • Negative to positive.
  • Lies to truth.
  • Wrong to right.
  • Hate to love.
  • Self-centered to other-centered.
  • Anger to peace.
  • Prideful to humble.
  • Selfishness to sacrifice.
  • Despair to hope.
  • Dark to light.
  • Loud to quiet.
  • Crisis to calm.
  • Apathy to involvement.
  • Helpless to empowered.
  • Turmoil to peace.
  • Speculation to truth.
  • Ugly to lovely.
  • Doubt to assurance.
  • Conditional love to unconditional love.
  • Following to leading.
  • Leading to following.
  • Like to love.
  • Silence to speaking up.
  • Ignorance to wisdom.
  • Knowledge to wisdom.
  • Information to wisdom.
  • Impatience to patience.
  • Happiness to joy.
  • Superficial understanding to deep truth.
  • Knowing what to do to doing what is right.
  • Entitlement to gratefulness.
  • Closed-minded to open-minded.
  • Biased to impartial.
  • Rejection to acceptance.
  • Self-centered to selfless.
  • Mean-spirited to kind.
  • Unsympathetic to tolerant.
  • Jealous to content.
  • Prejudiced to fair.
  • Untalented to talented.
  • Hungry to fed.
  • Isolated to connected.
  • Alone to together.
  • Judgmental to considerate.
  • Stop crying wolf to tell the truth without exaggeration.
  • Deceived to discerning.
  • Forgetting what’s good to remembering blessings.
  • Face to authentic.
  • Provoked to self-controlled.
  • Impulsive to self-controlled.
  • Impure to pure.
  • Unfair to just.
  • Unaware to enlightened.
  • Slave to free.
  • Needy to servant.
  • Short-sighted perspective to the long-view.
  • Self-worship to worshiping God.
  • Blind to truly seeing.
  • Deaf to really hearing.
  • Bored to interested.
  • Afraid to secure.
  • Lost to found.
  • Bigotry to tolerant.
  • Invisible to known.
  • Disagree to agree.
  • Disagree to agree to disagree.
  • Broken to whole.
  • Fear to love.
  • Cursed to blessed.
  • Unable to able.
  • Hopeless to hopeful.
  • Fractured to healed.
  • Unsure to convinced.
  • Chaos to calm.
  • Disinterested to concern.
  • Apathetic to influential.
  • Concerned to comforted.
  • Brokenhearted to loved.
  • Animosity to grace.
  • Harsh to merciful.
  • Patronized to respected.
  • Tolerated to loved.
  • Denounce to dignify.
  • Neglected to noticed.
  • Disrespect to honor.
  • Judgment to compassion.
  • Condemn to forgive.
  • Unfaithful to faithful.
  • Cruel to gentle.
  • Disloyal to loyal.
  • Unreliable to faithful.
  • Corrupt to ethical.
  • Refuse to accept.
  • Closed to teachable.
  • Apathetic to praying.

Remember, choose 2-3 and do something. If you’re willing to comment and let me know what you choose, I’m interested and I’d be honored to pray for you. Blessing to you.