Every Monday, I’ll post about discovering genuine hope and authentic answers for living a healthy life.

“He actually called me ‘Fresh Meat’.”

I leaned forward and asked, “Seriously? He said that!?”

“I know! Can you believe it? So many guys today don’t even hide their intentions. They know I’m newly divorced and they make terrible assumptions.”

I asked, “What are you going to do?”

Without hesitation, my friend explained why she thought men like this were “so sad.” While sharing, it’s almost as if she had my book, Finding Authentic Hope and Wholeness: Five Questions That Could Change Your Life, in front of her.

She confidently declared, “I’m not that kind of woman. I never was. I know who I am and I’m not changing just because some guy wants me to.”

I was so pleased to hear that. I wasn’t surprised. I’ve known this woman for 20 years and this statement is consistent with who I’ve known her to be.

This conversation and this friend’s actions were a powerful reminder to me of the connections between our needs.

  • She is secure in who she is and she can trust herself to make wise decisions because of past success.
  • She knows who she is and she’s content with who she is.
  • Therefore, she knows who will be healthy friends for her and who won’t be. She chooses accordingly. She won’t sacrifice who she is just to become friends with someone.

I’m grateful for my friend’s maturity. I know I don’t need to worry about her.

What about you? Your children?

I explain the power of the connections between our five core needs in my book. Learn how to discover causes of problems by discovering which core need(s) the trouble starts in. This understanding might be just what you need. You can purchase it here.