The Smarts #4
Why Are They Important?
In Monday’s blog about the 8 great smarts, I shared about two important ways children benefit when discovering how they are smart. I continue that topic with more ways in this excerpt from my book, 8 Great Smarts: Discover and Nurture Your Childs’ Intelligences.
In addition to increasing children’s confidence and giving them legitimate reasons for knowing they’re not dumb, here are three more reasons kids to teach children how they’re smart:
A New Way To Talk About Behavior
Teaching children to ask an additional question, “How can I be smart with my smarts?” introduces the powerful idea that children can use their smarts in healthy or unhealthy ways. Children who understand that their positive and negative behaviors are often related to different smarts have new ways of thinking about obedience. Parents have new ways of motivating excellent behavior and talking with their children about why they misbehave.
Volunteering and Career Choice
How a child is smart can also direct decisions regarding volunteering and serving. For example, a child who is nature smart and people smart may enjoy helping out at a pet shelter. One who is nature smart and body smart may enjoy walking a neighbor’s dog. (Many examples are included in chapters 3 to 10 so you’ll understand how these smarts work together.)
Careers can also be identified as a good fit or not according to a child’s smarts. My nephew, Andy, who played with Legos and toy trains much longer than other boys might have, did so because he is very picture smart and logic smart. He is now a successful engineer using those skills and his people-smart abilities. He consults with many customers so his people-smart skills are essential. Remember, intelligences never work alone. They support each other.
Five Core Needs Can Be Met
Another advantage the smarts provide is an important way for children to meet their legitimate, core needs. This means they’ll be less likely to rely on counterfeit hope and dangerous ways of trying to meet their needs—lying, teasing, pride, apathy, popularity, and more.
When needs are met, it’s more likely your child will experience contentment, peace, excellence, fulfillment, obedience, and much more. Knowing which intelligences are strengths and how to use them in smart ways can help your child meet these five basic needs.
… Let me close this excerpt (from pages 27-28) here. If you’re not familiar with the five core needs I teach about often (security, identity, belonging, purpose, and competence), you can read about them on page 28-33 if you have the book. Or, you may be able to think through these questions based on your experiences:
How might believing in the 8 smarts within you help you meet these needs?
Security: Who can I trust?
Identity: Who am I?
Belonging: Who wants me?
Purpose: Why am I alive?
Competence: What do I do well?
There are so many answers! I hope you can predict some and that you’ll get the book to more completely understand this important reason children need to know how they’re smart.