Anxiety Framing is a Parental Call
Statistics show that one in five teens will face some degree of mental health struggle, a call to action for us as parents, teachers, and community members to step in. At the heart of helping our children navigate their mental well-being are three simple yet powerful actions: engage, observe, and encourage open dialogue.
When we engage with our children, we build the foundation of trust that allows them to feel safe opening up about their inner lives. Conversations don’t have to be deep to start—sometimes, the simple act of connecting over daily life opens doors. Instead of the routine “How was school today?” try asking, “What made you laugh today?” or “What’s something interesting that happened?” These types of questions invite children to share without feeling pressured, and they help us tune into what brings them joy or concerns them. By connecting with them this way, we communicate that we’re there to listen to the little and big things alike.
Observing behavioral shifts is equally vital. Children don’t always have the language or self-awareness to express what’s happening emotionally, so we can help by paying attention to changes in mood, habits, or energy levels. Maybe your child, who usually jumps out of bed for soccer practice, seems listless or irritable. Simple shifts in behavior or mood can clue into underlying challenges. A simple, “I’ve noticed you seem a bit quieter than usual. Want to talk about anything?” can gently open the door for them to share without judgment. Observing without jumping to conclusions respects their journey and leaves room for honest expression.
An essential part of this journey is to encourage open dialogue about mental health. Kids often learn from us, not just through what we say but through what we model. Sharing your experiences with stress or feeling down can demonstrate that discussing these things is okay. You don’t have to be an expert in mental health—approach conversations with curiosity and empathy. When they face tough situations like peer pressure or academic stress, instead of rushing in with advice, ask them, “What do you think might help?” This collaborative approach invites them to think through solutions and builds confidence in managing their struggles.
As parents and caregivers, we’re called to be primary caregivers for our kids, not outsourcing this role to others. Yes, schools, churches, and mentors can play supportive roles, but no one has the deep insight and personal bond with our children that we do. Think about the story of Elijah in the Bible, where God met him in his fear and despair with patience and compassion. We can patiently meet our kid’s needs, helping them feel seen and understood. This active, engaged presence shows our kids they’re safe with us, whatever they’re going through.
We create a strong support system for our youth through engaging, observing, and encouraging open dialogue. We don’t have to be experts to make a difference. It’s about being present, paying attention, and showing them they are not alone. In a culture that often overwhelms our kids, we can be the safe space they need to explore their thoughts and emotions. As we work to break down the stigma around mental health, we also build resilience, empowering our children to face the future with confidence, knowing they have a community that cares and supports them every step of the way.