Preparing Kids for the Thanksgiving and Christmas Family Performance
Family gatherings can be full of joy, laughter, and a little bit of stress—especially for kids. New faces, loud conversations, and long meals might feel overwhelming for some. But with a little preparation, we can help kids feel ready and excited to enjoy these special moments.
Talk About What to Expect
Before the gathering, take some time to explain what the day will be like. Share who will be there, what kind of food they might see, and how long the event could last. Show pictures of family members and share fun facts about them. “This is Uncle Joe—he loves fishing and tells the funniest stories!” When kids know what to expect, they feel more at ease.
Let your kids know what’s important to you, too. “We’ll say hi to everyone when we arrive, and after that, you can play with your cousins.” This gives them clear steps to follow without overwhelming them. Remind them it’s okay to take breaks or stick close to you if they’re nervous.
Create Space to Recharge
Big family events can be exciting, but they’re also tiring. Kids (and adults!) sometimes need a little time to rest. If your child seems quiet or cranky, they might need a break. Find a cozy spot where they can play quietly, read a book, or just breathe for a few minutes.
Bringing along something familiar, like a favorite snack or toy, can also help. These small comforts can make a big difference when kids feel out of their routine.
Share Stories and Ask Questions
Family gatherings are a great time to connect across generations. Sharing stories about your own childhood or asking grandparents about theirs can spark laughter and memories. Encourage your kids to ask simple questions like, “What was school like for you?” or “What’s your favorite memory as a kid?”
These conversations help kids see their place in the family story. They learn about their roots and build closer bonds with relatives. Kids don’t need to talk a lot to feel part of the moment—listening and smiling can make connections, too.
Let Kids Take Their Time
Some kids are ready to jump in and play, while others need time to warm up. That’s okay. Let your child adjust at their own pace. They might stay close to you at first, and that’s natural.
Remind them that building relationships takes time, and they don’t have to talk to everyone right away. Just like Thomas in the Bible needed time to believe, kids sometimes need space to feel comfortable. Be patient and let them move at their own speed.
Focus on Connection, Not Perfection
The best family gatherings aren’t about perfect behavior—they’re about connection. By preparing your kids and giving them space to be themselves, you set the stage for special moments they’ll remember.
As you enjoy the day, celebrate the small wins. Maybe your shy child waves to a cousin or shares a giggle with Grandma. Those moments are building blocks for deeper relationships.
Family time is about love, laughter, and letting each person shine. With a little guidance and care, your kids can feel confident, connected, and ready to enjoy the gathering—one smile, story, and hug at a time.