Parents often assume helping their children become healthier requires dramatic changes. A family camping trip. A weekend retreat. An expensive vacation. A carefully planned outdoor adventure.

But what if one of the most powerful things we could do for our children only took twenty minutes?

Every family seems to have one. You ask a simple question. "What do you want for dinner?" "What park should we go to?" "What did you think about youth group?"

Several siblings answer immediately.

Then there is one child. Silence. A long pause. By the time they finally answer, everyone else has moved on. Parents often become concerned. Is this child anxious? Are they overthinking? Why does every decision seem to take so long? What if that pause isn't evidence of a problem? What if it's evidence of a gift? Recent research suggests we may need to rethink what we call "overthinking."

Gratitude journals often carry an unfortunate reputation. They can feel simply sentimental or like another item on an already crowded parenting checklist. Yet the research tells a very different story.