Fact-to-Face with Character.ai and Artificial Friends
The Problem We Can’t Ignore
We’re at a crossroads. The tools of our time, artificial intelligence and social media, aren’t going away. They’re only growing in influence. If we don’t equip children with the ability to discern the good from the harmful—now, early—we’re setting them up to trust a world that doesn’t always have their back.
Dr. Kathy says it well: discernment starts with knowing who you are. A child’s ability to recognize truth, beauty, and goodness—or spot manipulation and harm—is rooted in their sense of identity. Without that foundation, every voice on their screen carries equal weight. Every message becomes plausible.
So, how do we help? It’s Act Early: Seize the Moment
it’s not rocket science; it’s relationship-building. Engage your kids in conversations about values and beliefs. Share stories where choices have clear consequences. Highlight what aligns with God’s truth and what doesn’t. When kids understand who they are—and whose they are—they can push back against a culture that constantly tries to define them.
Waiting until kids are already knee-deep in digital influences isn’t an option. Dr. Kathy has ideas for speaking into “teachable moments”—everyday opportunities to discuss tough topics. Watching a movie? Pause to ask, “Why do you think that character made that choice? Was it wise?” These small conversations build discernment muscles over time.
This is about giving kids clear tools and frameworks. Teach them to ask:
Is this true?
Is this kind?
Does this align with what I know about God’s design?
Bring in stories. Share examples from your life where you had to discern between competing truths. Kids love personal anecdotes—they make the lessons real.
We’ve learned and believe that kids want guidance. They crave boundaries, even when they push against them. But they also want to know why those boundaries exist. Dr. Kathy suggests going beyond "rules" to talk about the why. Don’t just say, “Don’t trust chatbots.” Explain, “Sometimes, the things they say aren’t meant to help you. Let’s talk about who does want what’s best for you.”
Dive deep. Explore the implications of technology—ethically, morally, and spiritually. Kids who thrive on analysis will appreciate the challenge.
Keep it practical. Let them test the boundaries. Ask, “What would you say if a chatbot gave you advice that felt off? How would you respond?”
A Call to Action
Parents, mentors, teachers—this isn’t just a suggestion. It’s a charge. Equip your kids now. Teach them how to discern the messages coming at them daily. Give them a strong sense of identity rooted in truth, and they’ll have the tools to navigate the complexities of the digital world.
The stakes are high, but the solution is simple: start early. Talk often. And don’t be afraid to lean into the hard conversations.